"Why are you doing this"
"Who allowed them to do this?’"
These are some of the quotes from a parent of well-known young person who has gone to fight in Syria and Iraq. Parents become very emotional and the actions of the young people have a big impact on the families. There is a sense of confusion from some of the parents and in particular the parent of the belonging quotes above. There is a sense of ‘‘Why us’’ thinking and that can have a real impact on the day to day of a parents mind frame. By escaping from ones loved ones to flee the country, it leaves a big hole in the parents lives. It has a massive impact on the family of the young person. There are stories of parents who cannot sleep at night and their mental state that is tested by their loved ones leaving for Syria and Iraq.